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I found this so well written and I know it to be true from a Medium's perspective that I thought I would include it as an article for you to read.

This is an article written by a nurse who had worked in a hospice.  I also have the same understanding as the following. People grow a lot when faced with their own mortality.  Some changes that a person makes after faced with this can be Phenomenal.Each person experiences a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.  Every single client found their peace before they departed though every one of them went through a lot of the following.

1.   I WISH I'D HAD THE COURAGE TO LIVE A LIFE TRUE TO MYSELF, NOT THE LIFE OTHERS EXPECTED OF ME.

This was the most common regret of all.  When people realize that their life is almost over and look back on it clearly, they see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.  Most of them had not honored even half their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

LESSON:  Honour your most important dreams.  From the moment you lose your health, it is too late.  Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it.

2.    I WISH I DIDN'T WORK SO HARD.

This came from every male patient that I nursed.  They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship.  Women also spoke of this regret.  But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been the breadwinners of the family.  All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

LESSON:  By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to need less income than you think you do.  And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3.   I WISH I'D HAD THE COURAGE TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.  As a result they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.  Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

Lesson:  We cannot control the reactions of others.  Although people may initially react when you speak your true feelings, in the end it will either raise the relationship to a healthier level or release you from the unhealthy relationship.

4.    I WISH I HAD STAYED IN TOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS.

Often patients would not truly realize the benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and then it was not possible to track them down.  Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let many close friendships slip by over the years.  There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort they deserved.

LESSON: -  With the strains of a busy lifestyle, it's easy to let friendships slip but when faced with your imminent death, the physical details of life fall away.  While I found my patients wanted to ensure their financial affairs were in order, money or status no longer held any value to them.  All that remains in those final weeks were love and relationships.

5.   I WISH THAT I HAD LET MYSELF BE HAPPIER.

This is surprisingly common. Many of my patients did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice.  They had remained stuck in old patterns and habit.  The so called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives.  Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content.  Deep within they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

LESSON:-  When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind.  How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Bronnie Ware

Life is a choice. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.